Grief is often associated with deep loss or sorrow, and often loss through death. This is a strong emotion and can be difficult to manage, but it is not a frequent experience for most people. We may feel similar but less strong feelings of grief when faced with disappointments or goals that weren’t achieved. This lesson focuses on dealing with disappointment that comes from setbacks.
Help students understand words associated with grief by presenting the following definitions and examples.
Watch the following video about overcoming obstacles. Ask the students to listen to what the man talks about with dealing with challenges.
After watching the video you may ask you students the following questions:
Have students think of a time when they have faced disappointment.
Ask the students to think about a personal experience related to disappointment. Write down a list of words that describe how you felt during and after that experience. Then have students share their list with a partner or group.
Present the following short paragraph and picture:
Michael Jordan is without a doubt the greatest basketball player of all time, but we only see the success. He missed 9,000 shots in professional matches during his lifetime. And that was necessary to eventually become the best basketball player ever. Are those 9,000 missed shots making him a failure? No. We all ‘fail’. It’s okay.
Retrieved from: https://www.latimes.com/sports/story/2020-04-18/michael-jordan-a-timeline-of-the-nba-legend
Ask students to think of other famous and successful people. (EX: Bill Gates, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Oprah Winfrey). Explain that many people become successful after many “failures” and setbacks.
There might be students who are currently experiencing disappointments, so you can ask them to think about that situation and how they could possibly respond to it mindfully and constructively. Some ideas presented in this class that they could use are changing their perspective, sharing their experience with others, or even allowing themselves to feel the pain, feel sad and then move on. If students are not currently experiencing disappointments, invite them to make a list of things they can do next time they feel grief.
Ask students to share the list they made for homework with a partner. Have them focus on the things they can do to respond to disappointments mindfully. You can also invite students to think of someone they know who might be currently experiencing disappointment. Based on the ideas they wrote down in their lists, how could they help that person?
Discuss the following question:
Help students understand that by allowing ourselves to feel the pain we are able to consciously accept what happened to us and move on to find happiness and well-being in our lives again.
Review the vocabulary words learned in the vocabulary activity. To review you can: