Self Compassion Letter
Self compassion involves fully “embracing ourselves as we are: flaws and all” (TEDx Talks, 2013,6:45). As educators, too often we are self critical, which only undermines our motivation and job satisfaction, and increases our levels of stress and burnout. In a recent study assessing the impact of various characteristics on educator wellbeing, self-compassion was associated with higher levels of job satisfaction and student-teacher closeness(Hwang et al., 2019). Additionally, higher self-compassion was correlated with lower levels of relationship conflict, anxiety and emotional eating, as well as improved sleep quality. Compared to dispositional mindfulness, sleep and eating behaviors, and student-teacher relationships, self-compassion was the most significant predictor of lower stress levels among educators(Hwang et al., 2019). Dr. Kristin Neff identified three key domains of practicing self compassion: self kindness, recognizing our common humanity, and mindfulness(Neff & Germer, 2017). Self kindness involves treating ourselves as we would a good friend and thinking positively about, rather than belittling, ourselves. The recognition of common humanity involves reinforcing the belief that “to be human means to be imperfect” (Tedx Talks, 2013, 8:03). We are not unique or alone in our suffering and imperfections. Mindful self compassion involves being present with and accepting of our suffering and extending compassion to ourselves in the moment(Neff & Germer, 2017). Dr. Neff suggests that to practice self compassion, we may participate in a self-compassion guided meditation, self-soothe by touching our heart, hugging ourselves, or clasping our hands, or by writing a self-compassionate letter to ourselves. While the intervention included in this resource focuses on the self-compassion letter, we encourage you to visit Neff’s website here for additional self-compassion exercises that may help support your wellbeing.
|Materials:||Paper, writing utensil|
|Duration:||15-20 minutes, as needed.|
(Adapted from Greater Good Science Center, n.d.)
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Shapira and Mongrain (2010) assessed the impact of a self-compassion and optimism letter writing activity on depression and happiness. The self-compassion activity required participants to write a letter about a distressing event and to express compassion to themselves. For the optimism activity, participants visualized a desired future and wrote a letter to themselves about steps to achieve it. Both interventions were practiced daily for one week. About 1000 participants, with one third being assigned to each intervention, and the final third being assigned to a control group that wrote about an early memory. Both interventions were found to improve emotional wellbeing. Participants who practiced the self-compassion exercise reported lower levels of depression 3 months following the intervention and higher levels of happiness at the 6 month follow-up(Shapira & Mongrain, 2010).
Mantelou and Karakasidou(2017) completed a similar study, assessing the impact of a self-compassion intervention on life satisfaction, positive affect, and negative affect. This study involved 42 university students, half of whom were randomly assigned to the intervention and half to a control group. The self-compassion intervention involved five meetings where participants learned about and practiced self-compassion, including writing a self compassion letter. Those who participated in the intervention reported significant improvements in life satisfaction and positive affect, with a decrease in negative affect, as compared to the control group (Mantelou & Karakasidou, 2017)
Greater Good Science Center. (n.d.). Self-compassionate letter for adults. https://edtechbooks.org/-KEne
Hwang, YS., Medvedev, O.N., Krägeloh, C., Hand,K., Noh, J. & Singh, N.N. (2019). The role of dispositional mindfulness and self-compassion in educator stress. Mindfulness, 10, 1692–1702. https://edtechbooks.org/-DYxJ
Mantelou, A. & Karakasidou, E. (2017) The effectiveness of a brief self-compassion intervention program on self-compassion, positive and negative affect and life satisfaction. Psychology,8, 590-610. https://edtechbooks.org/-Somf
Neff, K. D. & Germer, C. (2017). Self-compassion and psychological well being. In J. Doty (Ed.) Oxford Handbook of Compassion Science, Chapter 27. Oxford University Press. https://edtechbooks.org/-HKfv
Shapira,L.B. & Mongrain,M. (2010) The benefits of self-compassion and optimism exercises for individuals vulnerable to depression. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 5(5), 377-389. https://edtechbooks.org/-bMtS
TEDx Talks. (2013, February 6). The space between self-esteem and self compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen [VIDEO]. YouTube. https://edtechbooks.org/-yQve
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